friday's confession: I was a hot mess.

I used to be a hot mess. Like Hot. Mess.

I partied. A lot. I was late. All the time. I made out with boys in bars. The wrong kinds of boys.

I made some poor choices in my life.

Up until recently, I realized that I was still caught up in my old way of thinking: Why can't I get my shit together? Why do I always feel like I'm running a million miles behind?

Why am I still such a hot mess?

Um. Hello, Tiffany. You are NOT a hot mess. You're highly-creative yo!

I realized that I've been carrying this old story around for a loooong time. I realized that the choices I'm currently making are actually swell. In fact, they're MAGNIFICENT ifIdosaysomyself.

I have an amazing life. I'm building a business doing what I love, working with the raddest of people. I have an amazing husband and the sweetest puppy. I love my family and adore my friends and get to do the most magical of things with them.

This is no accident.

I have consciously made choices that have had a direct impact on my life. I stopped partying all the time. I learned to (mostly!) manage my time better. I said no more to the wrong boys and started making out with the right one (wink, wink).

This is not to say that my life is perfect or that I am perfect. BUT I cannot continue to define myself as a hot mess based on moments of imperfection or not-having-it-as-together-as-I'd-like-to - and neither can you.

As creatives, we often feel like we aren't 100% on top of things. We have big ideas! It's hard to focus! We make messes!

{And that is FANTASIC y'all. Fucking fantastic.}

Our creativity does lead to messy desks. Or more ideas than we know what to do with. Or a notebook in every room of the house...and bag...and drawer...and that's okay.

Creativity is not a liability. It is an asset. And it's time we (ahem...I) started treating is as such.

Goodbye Hot Mess. Bonjour Beautiful Mess.

Who's with me?

**photo by me; graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

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**photo and graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

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friday's confession: it's smoke and mirrors.

Last week, I attended an amazing birthday party for my friend Stacy, and my thought throughout was - Wow. I get to do stuff like this? How incredible is my life?

{Answer: VERY incredible.}

And I instagrammed the party and posted about it on facebook because it was exciting! The entire experience of the evening was surreal - surrounded by great people in one of the most beautiful settings imaginable, celebrating a very special person.

And I wanted to celebrate it.

But the dark side of the online sharing is that someone else might have seen my photos and my celebrations and my exclamation points and hashtags and thought I wish my life was like that.

I wish I could do things like that.

Why don't I have that?

And they might have felt bad about their own lives, when just minutes before, everything had been fine.

When I went on my honeymoon last month, I made a very conscious effort to stay off social media. No checking in, no quick posting, no just a peeks because I wanted to focus on where I was, on being with Tim, on celebrating the beginning of our marriage.

And during those two weeks, I never once felt bad about myself. I never once felt inferior. I never once thought, If only I could do/have/be that, everything would be better.

I realized it's all smoke and mirrors. This online life we're living, how attached we are to our social media accounts, the stories we are telling with our filtered photos and 140-character slices of life.

And maybe that's okay.

Based on the photos I took at the party last week, someone who doesn't know me well might think that this is my life, that my days are filled with exotic parties, beautiful settings, and a wonderland-like way of interacting. They may not know that, most nights, what really lights me up is having enough time before bed to watch two episodes of the West Wing instead of one.

I used to think that part of the solution was to quit social media altogether (which I, of course, recommend in small doses), but now I think that it might be to surrender to the smoke and mirrors - to recognize that we are all sharing our stories, celebrating those amazing, magical moments that must be shared.

Because sometimes smoke and mirrors entertain. Because they make things beautiful. Because they help us all feel like we're part of something bigger.

And isn't that what we're all really looking for in this life? The belonging. The community. The idea that maybe, just maybe, those magic shows aren't just smoke and mirrors. That just maybe this magic is the real deal, just this once, that we can trust that all of what we see - and more - is possible for each and every one of us.

That's what I want to believe.

And I encourage you to believe it too, and to remember it when you get that hit of jealousy or inferiority or life shame when you look at someone else's celebration on the internet. To some extent, it's all smoke and mirrors.

And each of us is just trying to find something to believe in.

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**photo by me; graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

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the (amazing!) (super RAD!) Multi-Passionate Must-Haves sale ends tonight!

Heads up y'all: The Multi-Passionate Must-Haves sale that I’m taking part in ends tonight at midnight!

You might be multi-passionate if:

* you suffer from shiny-object syndrome

* you are REALLY good at starting projects

* you feel like you suffer from multiple personality disorder because you want to do so-freaking-much with your life.

If you can relate, this offer is for YOU.

All of these products were hand-picked to address the specific challenges of being a multi-passionate, namely: career, fear, and productivity.

27 courses, audios and ebooks – worth $1,379! – that help you to integrate your many passions into your life, are yours for just $97 until midnight. That includes my 30 Day Social Media Rehab workbook, along with products from Michelle Ward, Kate Swoboda, Molly Mahar, Alexandra Franzen, Mayi Carles, Jennifer Lee, and so many other multi-passionate rock stars.

Plus don’t forget that $10 of every sale goes to the Avon Walk for Breast Cancer. (Go Team Michelle!)

Hop to it and pick up your Multi-Passionate Must-Haves. By midnight! Tonight! 

Tick...tock...

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PS. Don't forget! The amazing Multi-Passionate Must Haves sale ($1,379 worth of AMAZING products ~ including my Social Media Rehab Workbook ~ for only $97) ends on Thursday at midnight PST. Don't miss out on this incredible offer!

**graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

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a little something-something

Y'all. I'm so excited (SO!) to be sharing this with you!

Some of you may have seen on social media that I've been hard at work making my Social Media Rehab program into a home-study workbook. And today is that day that it's available to you - in a very special way!

Drumroll Please: The Multi-Passionate Must-Haves* is out and I’m super pumped to let you know about how you can help your multi-passionate self, give back to others (by supporting breast cancer research), & get 95% off some of the best products created by and for multi-passionates (including moi!).

27 courses, audios and ebooks – worth $1,379! – that allow you to integrate your many passions into your life and use them as fuel for income, are yours for just $97 ‘til Thursday at midnight.

That includes the Social Media Rehab Home-Study Workbook along with:

• BYOB Build Your Online Business Guide by Natalie Sisson ($37)
• Pitch Perfect™ Pack by Dyana Valentine ($57)
• The Creative Ignition Kit by Melissa Dinwiddie ($37)
• Renaissance Business by Emilie Wapnick ($49)
• Productivity for Multipotentialites by Michelle Nickolaisen and Emilie Wapnick ($67)
• Operation: Creative Career Cheer by Michelle Ward ($37)
• Reclaim Your Dreams by Jonathan Mead ($47)
• Life is Messy Planners by Mayi Carles ($40)
• Creating Your Own Mastermind Group by Jen Louden ($100)
• The Declaration of You by Jessica Swift and Michelle Ward ($57)
• The Comparison Cure by Kylie Bellard ($15)
• Ethical Selling that Works by Pamela Slim ($97)
• Help, I Need More Time! by Bev Webb ($46)
• How to Describe the Indescribable by Alexandra Franzen ($17)
• The Art of Earning + The Art of Growth by Tara Gentile ($40)
• Spin Your Story by Amanda Oaks ($10)
• The Joy Equation by Molly Mahar ($147)
• 52 Weeks to Awesome by Pace & Kyeli ($52)
• The Right Brain Product Development Playground by Jennifer Lee ($97)
• How to Take a Career Break to Travel by Alexis Grant ($29)
• Small Army Strategy by Srinivas Rao ($2.99)
• The Kick Burnout Kit by Michelle Nickolaisen ($17)
• The Yearly/Weekly Planner Bundle by Michelle Nickolaisen ($23)
• The Courageous Living Program by Kate Swoboda ($125)
• The Momentum Kickstart Kit by Charlie Gilkey ($47)
• Guerrilla Influence Formula by Tyler Tervooren ($49)

Wanna know what else is awesome? $10 from each sale is going to Michelle Ward’s team for the Avon 2-Day Breast Cancer Walk in NY. Michelle was diagnosed with breast cancer in November 2011 and declared cancer-free in June 2012, and this will be the 2nd year she’ll be walking 39.3 miles with Avon over 2 days with her mother and bestest friends.

(You can probably guess, then, that clicking the links here throws some affiliate coin my way, but – as always – I’d never send you to something I don’t stand behind fully. And I stand behind this, so fully that I’m buying one for myself. I mean, have you seen that Alexandra Franzen, Jennifer Lee, Pam Slim, Molly Mahar, and Jen Louden are all here?).

Thursday, y'all. You have until Thursday. Hop to it yo! 

*If you don’t know what it means to be multi-passionate, or are unsure if you are one, take a look at this page and jump to the Q&A at the bottom of the page.

Productivity Playlist: May

Hello friends! I'm back with a new playlist for the month. These are currently some of my favorite songs to work to. I hope you enjoy them as much as I do! (Note: RSS and email subscribers will need to click through to my site to access the playlist.)

friday's confession: we've got it all wrong.

It’s not about living OMG THE VERY BEST POSSIBLE LIFE THAT YOU CAN. 

It’s not about KICKING THE SHIT OUT OF FEAR AND GOING OUT THERE AND FUCKING DOING IT.

It’s not about GROWING A BIG GLITTERY PAIR OF BALLS AND DEMANDING THE LIFE OF THE DIVA THAT YOU ARE.

It’s about now. Right now. Thisverymoment.

It’s about the quiet. The contentment.

It’s about the choices you make. The ones you come to in the middle of the night when the rest of the world is asleep and you are awake with a fire buring in you and you decide that when you rise, when it’s time to start your day, you will do it anew. And you will never look back.

But to everyone else, nothing changes. It doesn’t look different. Because it’s inside you – this decision. This knowing. This power.

And when that choice gets made – the one that lights you up, that’s when you start living the shit out of your life, in every single moment.

It’s the mug that reminds you of the time you danced naked on the beach in Mexico. It’s the half and half instead of skim because life is too short not to savor your coffee in the morning. It’s the silent prayer for grace when the world seems stacked against you. 

That’s the secret of what it’s all about: the lowercase moments that make up our character, the every day moments that make us who we are, that have the ability to culminate in a life well-lived.

Which side of the choice are you on?

**Photo and graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

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