When did it all change? When was there a collective sigh from people who said, “Okay. I give up. I’m tired. What I have is just fine.”

Is it about a point you hit in your life? Is it that we just can’t keep fighting at the pace we’re used to?

Is it that we don’t want to be fighting at all? Bingo.

So what if, instead of fighting for our dreams, we lay down our swords? What if we were to surrender to the idea that it can get better and it doesn’t have to feel hard?

What if we were willing to dig deep into ourselves and actually find the (gasp!) easy way to change our lives?

And what if it all starts with a single decision: I will only participate in things that make me feel fucking amazing. And to change the things that don’t.

It might mean out-right quitting that soul-sucking job that feels like a slow crawl to death. Or it might mean standing up to your boss and demanding more respect for yourself. Or it might mean taking up painting in your spare time because you’ve always wanted to try it. Or it might mean putting all of your available after-work and weekend time into finally getting that business you’ve been dreaming of off the ground.

Because it’s time.

Because we’ve spent long enough waiting for someone else to hand it to us. We’ve spent long enough sitting by while other people get on with their own lives, wondering what happened to our own. 

Because, baby, it’s time to shine.

**graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

I had an experience recently where someone asked me to participate in a program she was running. After exchanging emails, having a phone call and her telling me that I'd be perfect for what she was putting together,* she ultimately let me know that "ooh sorry" my email list wasn't big enough to warrant a spot in her project. 

Um. Okay. 

For a split second, I felt bad. Like I all-of-a-sudden wasn't good enough. Or popular enough. Or cool enough to sit at the lunch table where she had originally invited me to sit. It's like she found out that my what-she-thought-were-Guess jeans came from Wal Mart. 

Then I got pissed. Because there is an implication in the online world that if you don't have a huuuuge list that you are nothing. Or if you haven't reached a certain threshold of Etsy sales, you aren't successful. Or if you don't have as many facebook friends or likes or shares as another person, you are less than. 

And that is straight-up bullshit. 

So what that I have a small internet penis? So what that my mailing list isn't staggering? It may be small but it is MIGHTY. The people I interact with are my favorite people in the world. They read what I have to say! And respond! And are sweet and funny and like to dance and sparkle! 

I would not trade them for thousands of followers. Ever. 

And if you are someone who is stuck in the But-I-don't-have-enough place of whereever you are, remember this: you start with 1. And then you add 1. That gets you to 2. And then you keep adding from there. Every single 1 counts. 

The best way to get ahead in this world: Treat each and every one of them like they matter. Like they matter a lot. 

Because even though we operate in a world where it's all about the bottom line and numbers are your metrics, every single one of your people is a human being. 

A human being who wants to connect. And feel something. And who doesn't want another fucking generic formula that might be {great! world-renowned! proven for millions!} for getting followers but is lacking on the relationship side of things. 

Y'all, I promise you: My internet penis may be small, but I will get you off. Each and every time.

Because when I show up, I show up. No matter how big the audience. 

*I'm being vague here on purpose as I don't want anyone pointing internet-fingers. But, for the record, this was not someone I'd ever met or have an established relationship with. 

**photo by me; graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching

**graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching 

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Aaand we've moved into June, so I say it's time to hit another playlist, oui?

To maximize your productivo time, remember: hit play and commit to focus for the duration of the playlist. Then when the music stops, you get a 5-minute break. It's sort of like musical chairs for your brain - except at the end of this game, EVERYONE wins!

This month's list features a few of my favorite jammy-jams new and old! Enjoy! (Note: RSS and email subscribers will need to click through to my site to access the playlist.)