I found out last night that a good friend is moving. Not across the country or to another state, but just down south from where we are both living now. Close enough that we'll still get to hang out, but far away enough that we won't be able to get together whenever we want.
And really, her moving is completely opposite the plan I have in my head where instead of moving farther away, she actually moves into a house on my street and brings back the drop-in and we start living as if we were on Friends.
Oh, isn't it funny how life sometimes works out in complete opposition to the things we have planned for ourselves?
My first reaction to the news that she is moving was to be upset and feel like, No! I don't want things to change! I was sad, and honestly, thinking quite selfishly about how much I'll miss this person who is quite dear to me.
But the truth is, things always change. It's just a fact of life. People evolve, settings develop, situations occur and shifts happen.
We don't live in a vacuum.
When faced with change, we have options, choices we can make. We can either hold on to the present with all we've got and refuse to face the change, or we can let go and surrender to it and see what happens. Sometimes, it's surprising how the world takes us for a ride.
Rides we can't even imagine.
It's like life is a river. There are different spots within the river -- some calm, some rushing, some full of stagnant water. And in our own personal rivers of life, we get to make choices. We get to decide if we're going to fall into the flow of the water and let us carry it through. We get to decide if we're going to hang on for dear life to the branch on the shore for fear of where the river will take us. We get to decide when to hold on and when to let go. Hell, we even get to decide when to buy a kayak to help us travel down the river faster.
But ultimately, we end up going where the river is going to take us, whether we want to or not. It's just up to us to make the choice (it's always a choice) as to how we want to handle it.
In this case, I'm choosing celebration. Celebration for this opportunity for my friend. For her growth! For new things for her! And celebration for our friendship and sheer gratitude that I have such wonderful, amazing people in my life.
It's a shift that I like and that I want to keep embracing.
How do you choose to be around change?