FOMO (the Fear Of Missing Out) is a big topic these days, and one that I am feeling pretty strongly myself as I venture into the world of motherhood and start saying no to opportunities that have come up in the first half of next year.
I recently got an email asking if I would like to speak at Craftcation again? OMG yes! Of course I would! Especially after learning that some of my good friends and people I adore are going to be there.
But at that point, I'll be at home with likely 6-8 week old twin babies. So there's that.
Last week, after looking at the Craftcation 2014 website and seeing my good friends Michelle, Lisa, and Brittni listed as presenters, I felt that familiar stab. That, "ooh. I really wish I could be there" pang that I feel when I see rad people participating in rad stuff that I wish I could be a part of. (Pretty much an every day occurrence thanks to the internet.)
And I started trying to figure out a way to make it work. "Well. Maaaybe if Tim or my mom could make the (7 hour!) drive with me, and they could stay to help with the babies, I could do it. Maaaaaybe the babies will be awesome and easy and me taking off for a weekend when I've only had a few weeks with them will be fine."
In other words, I went to the crazy place where my mind goes when I don't want to miss out on. It's a desperate place, a place of "howcanImakethisworkbecauseIreaaaallllywanttodothisandIcan'tmissoutIjustcan't."
And then I shook my head and got over myself. I'm about to have 2 (!) babies. I'm going to be a parent for the first time (Maggie only sort of counts), and Tim and I are venturing into lands unknown. My priority has to be my family. I want my priority to be my family. My business is not going anywhere, but these babies are gonna grow up quick.
Unfortunately, what happens when we let FOMO get the best of us is that we miss out on the goodness that surrounds us each and every day in our very own in-person IRL real lives.
We spend so much time thinking about what might be possible that we completely forget to focus on what 100% is. So no wonder we aren't feeling satisfied by our everyday lives.
We've forgotten how to focus. How to be mindful. How to pay more attention to what we want for ourselves and what's actually happening right at home than what other people (often complete strangers!) are doing with their lives.
So I say it's time to leave the FOMO on the shelf and focus on the LOMO: Loving Of (every) Moment Outright. (click to tweet)
Who's with me? Let's start a LOMO club where we go out and live. And enjoy. And celebrate what we have instead of what we think other people have in their lives.
Committing to yourself is step 1. Let's do this.
**photo & graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching