how do you love?


This past weekend, I learned that a high school friend recently took his own life. He was the person that all the girls had a crush on, the boy that made everyone laugh. He had a light that touched everyone. He was 31; it is just so sad.

Since the news broke, there has been an outpouring of memories and messages of love from old friends. He and I had lost touch through the years following school, but I still carry so many fond memories of spending time with him.

A memorial page has been set up on Facebook, but I cannot help but wonder if things would have turned out differently if only he had known how many people truly cared for him. Would he have felt just a little less alone in this world if more people had let him know that he was special to them?

I am a person who is very guilty of not keeping in touch with people. It's hard to do, especially when jobs, families, time zones, etcetcetc get in the way. But, wow, it is just so important. To take the time, or make the time, to let people know that they are loved. To remind people of how they might have touched your life, even if it was years ago or you think they won't remember. To let people know why they are special.

This is something that I'm going to work on for myself starting now. I'm going to make a conscious effort to make letting people know how I feel about them a priority. To be able to know that no matter what happens, the people who are important in my life will know it. That they won't have to doubt that they are important to someone.

Who's with me on this?

PS. Sorry for the sad post, but I think it's an important thing to talk about. There will be something fun and cheerful tomorrow, I promise!