friday's confession: I'm not here to save you.

friday's confession: I'm not here to save you. via Tiffany Han When I was first getting started with my business, I thought that other people were the answer to my success.

I thought that hiring Alex Franzen to write my web copy was the way to getting clients to knock down my door, eventually earning me a cool 6-figure salary. It wasn’t.

I thought that surrounding myself with amazing creative people would somehow propel me into my own creative awakening. It didn’t.

I thought that sitting down with an editor from Chronicle Books for 45 seconds would land me a book deal. Nope. No book deal yet.

Spoiler alert: No one is going to do it for you.

We spend all of our time thinking, “Oh. If only I could get a book deal, I'd be legit. Maybe if I keep writing, a publisher will happen upon my blog and give me a five or six figure deal.”

Or we look at someone else's website, a coach or artist who has it so figured out and whose copy is super en pointe and think, "Oh. I should hire her copywriter so that my site sounds that good too and then I'll be a successful coach."

Or we see how happy our painter friend is and think, "Man. If I'd just gone to art school and learned to paint instead of being a boring Economics major, I'd be that happy too, living a life of whimsical abandon."

It rarely happens like that.

You know what got me to where I am now really? Years of doing the work, of moving through the uncomfortable, of writing and refining and showing up, even when I wasn't sure of the how. Yes, Alexandra Franzen is an amazing writer, but if you don't know what you want to say, it's not going to land. She isn't going to come up with a radical new copy solution based on your generic I want everyone to live an amazing life.

The work has to come from you. Just like it had to come from me.

You have to do the work. You have to do the work. You have to do the work. [Tweet "You have to do the work. You have to do the work. You have to do the work. via @thetiffanyhan http://bit.ly/1rF0wU7"]

I can help. I can show you tools and hold you accountable and offer encouragement (like whoa) and structure and support. I can answer your questions and give feedback and create a community of like-minded women for you to reach out to when times are hard. I can show you my own path, being open and vulnerable about the challenges I face and teach you how I get to the other side, in real time.

But I can't do the work for you.

At the end of the day, when you're facing a scary decision or the prospect of doing something that makes you so excitednervous, it's just you and your email. It's you against the inbox and I can't come sit next to you to hit send.

And, honestly, I wouldn't want to. It's my job to teach you what's possible, to show you what's possible, to never ever ever let you forget what's possible for yourself.

But I'm not here to save you.

No one is.

The only person who can do the hard work that it's going to take to get you from where you are now to where you want to be is you.

If you aren't willing to do the work, hiring a coach, or going to a retreat, or paying for another fucking e-course isn't going to do any good.

Yes, they can offer structure and support, but at the end of the day, you've gotta be the one to hit send.

Are you ready to start saving yourself?

100 Rejection Letters starts October 15 - a whole year of you committing to doing the work. I've got your back. It's going to be brilliant. Early bird registration ends in one week and the bonuses are going quickly.

PS. Did you know the Bronze level of the program is only $97? It's a steal! (I also just updated it to have a payment plan option, making it super affordable to have me as your year-long virtual mentor.)

*photo by me; graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching