The quick and easy secret to happiness (that no one is telling you)

The quick and easy secret to happiness (that no one is telling you). via Tiffany Han

Step away from the screen.

I repeat: Step away from the screen.

Step away from the screen on your desk.

And from the one on your hand.

And from the one on your living room wall.

Step away from the screen on your wrist (!), and the one on the table at the cafe, and the one built-into your car.

STEP AWAY FROM THE SCREEN.

Oh, right. But no one on the internet is telling you to do that because they get paid by you staying on the internet.

The more you click and buy and share, the more their (potential) revenue goes up. So they continue to write more articles with good advice and show you how good things will be if only you follow these 5 easy steps to a minimalistic living room and tell you more and more about the things you need to know.

And, please, would you mind clicking and buying and sharing while you’re there?

So you click - and one click leads you to an entirely new world of possibility: 5 things to do with your kids at Disney, how to save $300 a month the easy way, what you don’t know about your food that could be killing you.

And you keep going until you forget that your living room is fine, that you don't want to take your kids to Disney, that you already have a savings account.

Click. Buy. Share.

Click. Buy. Share.

Click. Buy. Share.

And I am no different - I run my business on the internet. If you share this post and then someone else clicks it, I stand to make more money the next time I am selling a program.

That doesn’t make me a bad person, but it also doesn’t mean that you have to listen to everything I do. It doesn’t mean that you have to hang on every word, just as you don’t have to hang on every word of anyone online.

Because if you step away from the screen, the internet will still be there when you come back.

These words aren’t going anywhere. That deal will be found again. Your friends will still find that post you are dying to share helpful tomorrow.

And if you spend all of your day clicking, buying, and sharing, you will lose today. Tomorrow will be all you have. And does that sound like the makings of a happy life? Nope.

So, step away from the screen.

Go outside, wander, read a book, watch birds on a wire and figure out how they decide who stands where. See if your reflection looks the same in every window on your street. Try to find someone to car dance with at a red light.

Smile at strangers. Wink at babies. Make an adventure for yourself.

And, then, at the end of the day, before you get back on the screen to see omg-what-you-missed (spoiler alert: not as much as you thought), check in with yourself and see where your happiness is. Do you feel better? More alive? More connected?

And then remember this: you get to step away from the screen whenever you want. Even though facebook will try to chase you with phone notifications. Even though apple tells you that you need to wear a phone on your wrist. Even though everyone else wants you to keep clicking and buying and sharing.

YOU get to decide. Every single day.

*graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching