Y'all. I'm feeling whelmed. (I've been trying to avoid the word overwhelm, so whelm it is.)
I'm finding that I always have the grandest of intentions. I can get everything done. I can take care of it all. I can be everything to everyone.
Yeah, we all know how well that works, don't we.
Tim and I are moving full force into our wedding planning since we are trying to capitalize on the gorgeous September Bay Area weather and want to get married sooner rather than later (no, I'm not preggers!) (also, don't pretend you weren't wondering it). Since getting engaged less than two weeks ago, we have confirmed our date (September 15), venue, caterer, dress and invitations. Maybe we're magic.
In addition, we are also both trying not to let the wedding planning consume our lives.
Is this even possible?
I realized this morning that I have not done any business development for my coaching biz in the last two weeks. I'm working on a website redesign (sooo exciting!) and need to carve out some time to really immerse myself in where I am going.
Can I get all of this done while also being accountable to a lot of people in a lot of different areas (clients, Teahouse, non-profit gig, wedding)? I can, but I'm going to need to switch up how I do things for a while.
Here's what I'm shifting:
- Compartmentalize: I need to be able to be in my gmail without being distracted by whatever new email comes into my inbox. To handle this, I'm going to set up a separate email address for wedding and filter it into a different folder. This way, I can be deliberate about wedding planning without letting it consume my life and feel obligated to respond to things immediately.
- No Social Media: I'm about to take a pretty big break from social media and the internet in general. I find myself feeling overwhelmed and going unconsciously to Facebook. This isn't good.
- Rest, Good Food, Exercise, Less Alcohol: Having my time get crunched is usually a good indicator that I need to start taking really good care of myself. Right now, I'm making self-care a huge priority which means saying no to a lot of things and saying yes to myself. First.
- Own it: As I mentioned earlier, I know that I cannot be everything to everyone. I know that not everyone will agree with what we have planned for our wedding. And that's okay. As long as we follow our instincts and trust in what we want, we cannot go wrong.
How do you handle your own whelm? Anything else I should consider?