what's your theme?

I think that it's really important to take stock every now and then to see if your life fits into the theme that you want it to have.Theme? What theme?

If this seems foreign, you need to first consider what you want your life's theme to be. Is there something, a word, a phrase, that sums up how you want to live your life, how you want your life described? I think it's important that we all develop a mantra, something that serves as a beacon, a guide to how we want to live.

Mine: Be brave, be grateful, be kind. Choose happy.

I feel so very strongly that if I follow these words, make them my life-rule, things will work out. While I realize this all sounds ideally fine, it is hard to live by, on a practical basis. It would be much easier for my mantra to be: Be lazy, be selfish. Choose indifference. But it's not. It's much harder to look at someone with kindness when things aren't going the way you want them to. When someone's causing you some kind of hardship, it's easy to look upon them with disdain instead of compassion.

But we all have choices in how we live. We all have the power to live our lives according to our own rules, not the rules of everyone else. It's hard and takes effort. It's much easier to let other people make the rules, dictate what direction you should go. But, when has someone else *actually* known what's better for you than you? Not in a you-shouldn't-date-that-person kind of way (because, really, every time I've dated someone I shouldn't be, I've known it. There's just been some other more compelling reason to keep the relationship on), but in a I'm-going-to-do-what-this-person-says-even-though-I-know-better kind of way.

So, what's your mantra? Do you have one already? If so, I'd love to hear it in the comments below. If you don't have one, think hard and come up with one. I dare you!