Here’s the hard truth about taking creative risk: you will be judged.
When you share your work publicly, people are going to look at it, critique it, decide if it’s good enough.
This is what happens, and we are so afraid it.
Why don’t you try it? I ask.
But what if no one likes it? You respond.
Unfortunately the someone liking it piece doesn't matter the way you think it should. Your creative work has value even if no one likes it. Or, more likely, even if no one you know tells you they like it.
Because the value in the work isn’t other people liking it, it’s you making it and sharing it and then doing it all again. Over and over and over again.
It’s about you establishing your voice, figuring out what you have to say, and then getting more and more confident and comfortable with it all as time goes on.
It’s about you embracing the inevitable judgment that will come (because it will) and doing it anyway.
Because here’s the thing about judgment - you are being judged all the time, whether you realize it or not. All the time.
People are judging you based on what you wear, how you walk down the street, how often you return things to target, the bumper stickers on your car, how you order food in a restaurant, what your kids are like, how much wine you drink, how little wine you drink.
All of it.
You are being judged constantly in this world. But that doesn’t mean you don’t leave the house.
And it’s the same with creative work. Yes, you will be judged. So what? I want you to do it anyway.
To know that the judgment will come and keep taking strides anyway. To know that people disagreeing with you or not liking your work is par for the course, is just part of playing the game, and that it doesn’t make you bad. Or less worthy. Or a person who shouldn't share her work - her writing, her painting, her voice.
All of it is meant to be shared, judgment be damned.
Because for every person who hates it, there will be five more who say (or think), this is exactly what I needed to see today.
Because for every person who thinks you should just stop doing what you’re doing, there will be five more who say, please don’t stop. Your work is making such a difference in my life.
Because for every person who absolutely hates the sound of your voice, there will be five more enraptured with what you have to say.
Because when you keep going, those 5 people become 10 and those 10 become 20 who becomes 50 and then 100. And one day, you look up from all the creative work you're doing and realize - Ooooh. I'm actually doing this. Whooooa. I didn't even realize it.
And who are you doing it for? For the one potential hater or for the 5 who just. can’t. get. enough. of. you.
I know who I’m doing it for. I know why I don’t look at my unsubscribes or see who unfollows me. I know why I let that shit go on a regular basis.
Because I’m not doing my work for those people.
I’m doing my work for you.
And for me.
Who are you doing yours for? And are you willing to keep going when things start getting uncomfortable? Cause, Sweets, that's when the magic happens.
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**graphic by Erin Cassidy for Tiffany Han Coaching