The things I know to be true about all of us.


Here are a few things I know to be true. Perhaps some of them will be helpful to you. (As always, take what you need. Leave the rest.)

When you’re used to going a cool 100 miles/minute, slowing down to 60 mph is going to feel like a SLOW CRAWL.

Those big changes you need to make aren’t ever going to feel comfortable in the moment.

There is so much you don’t currently know - let your curiosity lead you.

It’s okay for you to aim for a C+ average. Your 78% is still AMAZING in the eyes of the rest of the world. Seriously, your standards are SKY HIGH. You have space to chill out a little bit.

Doing the safe thing is hardly ever where you want to be spending your time.

You need more sleep.

Like, maybe, 2 more hours a night.

There is a ton of mediocrity surrounding us that we can let go of.

You’ll find so much space and time if you stop watching shitty tv and stop waiting for social media to entertain you.

Seriously. This book is so much better than the endless scroll. You're welcome. 

Your intuition will never make you feel bad. It will never speak to you in a less-than-loving way.

Likewise, your inner critic is loud AF and often leaves you feeling depleted, depressed, and full of doubt and worry.

You can decide to ignore your inner critic while you work on your creative endeavors. No one is saying that it’s going to be easy but making that decision is the first step.

You may never get to a place of having things completely 100% figured out. And if you did, you’d probably be bored.

If you don’t feel like you can trust the Universe or God or the Earth Mother, figure out how to trust yourself.

You’ll always regret not cutting ties with that person/habit/relationship/mindset sooner.

You’ll never regret making the art, taking the walk, doing the meditation.

You are so much stronger than you realize. And that thing you’ve decided to call scary really isn’t all that bad when you consider everything you’ve survived and created and built up to this point in your life.

Oh, also: You’re doing great. You’re not alone. Keep going.

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Procrastination isn’t *really* your problem. (Whuuuuut?!)


The two biggest things I hear from women when I ask about their biggest creative challenges are procrastination and overwhelm. (And most also realize that the two contribute to each other!)

You procrastinate because you’re overwhelmed which leads to even less time to do all the things you need to get done which leads to more overwhelm until you’re so buried that you have no idea how or where to start and the hamster wheel keeps on spinning.

Toss into the mix the burden of paying very close attention to what so many other people are doing, all the different options available for you to act on, and the imposter complex and, all of a sudden, you’re face down on the sofa wondering why you ever even started this endeavor in the first place.

Which puts us right back into the overwhelm -> procrastination -> overwhelm cycle.

I know, I know! I get it. I do this too, buuuuuut I’ve figured out a few ways not to let it keep me down. And I promise you it’s possible to find your way to focus — otherwise, every library and gallery in the world would be empty.

Let’s start by talking about what’s really going on here.

You have a big dream for your life. There’s something you want to do, to say, to create for the world. You have a crystal clear vision of what it could look like in your head. You see yourself on stage, changing lives, at your gallery show, signing your books at Barnes & Noble. Yeeeeeeeees. Hello, excitement.

Oh, but then you open your eyes, and you’re back to real life — the laundry, the emails, the dishes. The obligations that don’t involve your super luxurious life of being a creative entrepreneur. (Except that creative entrepreneurs have to do laundry too, it’s just that no one is talking about that on Instagram!)

…enter the overwhelm…

But wait! There is a better way!

Here are three things I want you to pay attention to:

1. You’re trying to have it all figured out RIGHT NOW.

I get it. You’re a planner, a coffee drinker, an avid achiever. You could totally win The Amazing Race. You are so good at getting things done. So good, in fact, that you pride yourself on knowing how to handle any situation — which causes you to completely freeze when you aren’t quite sure how to proceed.

Because, in school, we’re taught that knowing the exact right answer as quickly as possible is the way to win at life. So we train ourselves to do so. But that’s not how creativity works. There’s no way to know what’s coming around every single corner. I don’t even know what I’ll be working on at the end of next week!

What I want you to work on instead is cultivating trust that you’ll figure things out as you go. What’s less intimidating: knowing exactly how to climb a mountain or taking the very first step? Right. First step wins every time. This isn’t about making a massive plan that you stick to no matter what (see #3 below about exhaustion!). It’s about trust and faith and trust and faith and trust and faith. Rinse and repeat.

2. You’re trying to convince yourself to do the wrong work.

Here’s what happens all the time: someone comes to me because they want help growing the business they’ve created to look like the business the internet has told them they should have. They’re completely overwhelmed trying to figure out how to get a newsletter off the ground, set up a routine posting schedule on Instagram, and create an audience big enough to sell thousands of spots in all of the not-yet-created passive income classes they need to build.

And they need help with their procrastination because they completely blame themselves and their lack of motivation for why they haven’t yet moved this forward.

Then I start asking questions:

Do you want to have a content-based marketing system?

Do you want to spend years building your audience to sustain a class-based business model?

Does the idea of creating and following an editorial calendar feel like freedom to you?

(Their answers are usually no, no, and no. Hence why they haven’t gotten started.)

So theeeeeen we can start digging into what they really want, how they can build a business around what they really love to do, and what kind of revenue model might be authentic to them. Hello, enthusiasm. Hello, freedom. Hello, needle being pushed forward. It’s like magic.

What I want you to do with this is to get quiet for a minute. Look at the work you’ve been pushing yourself so hard to do and get honest. Is it what you really want? Does it light you up to spend your time doing this? Does this work feel like freedom? If not, give yourself permission to set that aside (you can always come back to it!) and start exploring what else is out there.

3. You’re exhausted from 1 + 2.

As someone who used to roll her eyes so hard whenever anyone mentioned self-care, I know how hard it is to prioritize our bodies over our ambition. I used to pride myself on my ability to operate right at the brink of burnout, but then I had kids and started thinking about the future of my work and realized that I couldn’t keep going this way.

You can’t wring water from a dried up sponge. An empty well won’t sustain anyone. And those bold, inspired ideas that are going to propel you into bold, inspired action that is going to create momentum in your bold, inspired business aren’t going to happen if you don’t have enough energy to brush your teeth before bed.

You have to step off the hamster wheel if you don’t want to be on the hamster wheel. Even if it feels scary. Even if being able to keep up with the hamster wheel has helped you feel worthy in your life. Because you know that hamster wheel isn’t actually taking you anywhere. And it especially isn’t taking you anywhere you want to go.

There is a whole life waiting for you off the wheel, Sweets. It’s time to try a different way.

So here’s my challenge for this third part: shake up your routines. Figure out if you’re getting enough sleep and then commit to getting more. Try not watching tv for a month and see what happens. Buy an actual alarm clock so you can leave your phone in another room overnight. Ask for more help. Let people help. Say thank you and then revel in how good it feels to be rested. (Oh, and full permission to start here if 1 + 2 seem challenging right now.)

Here’s my thesis: procrastination happens, yes. And I don’t think it’s possible for it to go away completely. Buuuuut I do know that if you’re doing work that is resonant and authentic, if you’re doing it your way, and if you have energy with which to do it, things will flow. They’ll become so much easier than you realize.

Are you willing to believe there’s a better way?

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...and Mama loves her phone.


My daughters each have a baby that goes everywhere with them. One is a bunny and one is a lamb.

The other night as Tim was about to tuck them in, they both ran out of their room to collect their "babies" and brought Tim his phone as well. When he asked why, they said, "Because you love your phone."

He quickly explained that he did not love his phone. To which they replied, "Well. Mama definitely loves her phone." 

Oof. The retelling of that one hurt. 

Because, of course, our children are our greatest mirrors. And because, of course, when they look at me and I'm not parenting, I'm often on my phone. Checking just one more thing. Responding to a text. Looking something up. Or, you know, just scrolling.

And I suspect that this is the message most of us are sending to each other. That the thing we're wildly devoted to in our lives - as evidenced by our actions - are our phones. Of course, if you asked 100 of us to list out our top three priorities, no one would say social media. But I suspect that the hidden-camera versions of our lives would tell a different story. One that we weren't so enamored with.

Part of the issue is that our phones have become our communication hubs. Whereas before, you used to come home, check the mailbox and the answering machine, now it's all in our hands. All the time.

So it is up to us to deliberately put boundaries around our usage. Really.  I see parents do it all the time with their teens. But we never consider the example we're setting with our own usage.

I was thinking about this the other day and wondered what might shift in my life if I only checked and responded to text messages once a day. Would people get pissed? Would I lose friends? Would I have to constantly explain myself and apologize?

But also: what could I gain? In the quest for more freedom, what would my life look like if I wasn't always attached to the glowing rectangle in my hand. What if I let myself lose track of my phone? If I decided that it is merely a tool and not the boss of me?

And what could my new set of actions teach my children about what I really love?